So as the title suggests this post doesn't really have a theme its more like a diary/journal entry detailing my thoughts over the past couple days.
On Friday after a week or so of discussion on the idea my husband and I decided that I would create a "gofundme.com" page to perhaps raise some funds for us to go on a honeymoon trip since we weren't able to afford one when we got married in the summer 2011. I've since been sharing it on Facebook quite a lot, I even pinned it on pinterest and shared on Google+ even though I have no idea how google+ works. I shared it to various groups I am/was apart of on Facebook thinking it was a great way to drum up support.
I am well aware now that the people of the town I call my home are not nearly as generous and giving as I would have thought they were. Many rude and impolite comments were made about how we should "just (expletive deleted) save, like everyone else for (expletive deleted)'s sake" , how I was a bum for sharing such a page, "why don't you move to Greece if you want to share a page like this," and other comments along those lines. All of these from the group for the city I live in. This was quite surprising to me and hurtful and since I guessed/assumed there would only be more of the same and I am not as thick skinned as I try to make people believe I am, I took the post down.
The post is gone, the comments deleted, the rudeness however is not forgotten. I find myself thinking over and over again, why do people feel the need to share their rude thoughts, nothing forced them to donate or even to read the posting on Facebook and yet every comment was so rude, no positive comments were left at all, no likes on the post nothing to indicate that anyone other than a bunch of very rude people live in my town.
This leads me to think, well maybe it is not so surprising that I do not have friends in this town. At least not any that were not already my husband's friends before I was married. After all the negativity on a harmless post that people could have just ignored if the idea of donating to a honeymoon trip was so terrible in their opinion, I've come to the conclusion that maybe I really don't want to make friends in this town. Maybe I'm happier just being a hermit and having a social life on the web.
So you may be wondering, why are we asking people to donate to our honeymoon trip. The fact remains that after sending out job applications to all open positions that I'm even remotely qualified for and multiple open applications to be considered for any open position a company might have or that might become available in the six months the app stays in the company records etc. After all of this only and only one interview that required me to drive to a different city to attend, no job offers have come. Nothing, not even the hint of a possibility of being interviewed again by any other company and most haven't even responded to the effect that they would consider my application. I also keep an updated CV and cover letter document on the unemployment offices job listing page where employers can search for unemployed people who might fit their vacancies without making an official posting about such a vacant position. Anyway after all this applying and waiting I still haven't found a job in my new home. This is probably perfectly reasonable considering the unemployment rate and that I'm not Finnish and there are many Finnish people who are unemployed.
The moral of all that is that in order for us to have a honeymoon trip at any point in the foreseeable future we're going to need some help funding it. Gifts from friends and family and maybe even some generous strangers to make the dream come true. This means we're also saving our money if we can afford to do so and putting in in a fund towards the trip as well.
But the extreme lack of empathy and the really rude comments from people in town have just really ruined my day and done some serious damage to the mental image I had of the sort of people who live in my new home town.
Also as an ending note, if you're taking the time to actually read this and you want to make a donation to the honeymoon trip fund discussed within this post here is the link:
http://www.gofundme.com/JaniandMelsholidayfund
Maybe some of my readers will be more generous of heart and spirit than the residents of my town have been.
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